August 20th, 2016, 10:44 AM
Join Date: Aug 2016
Originally Posted by Mattitude
Lisswentz, you will be wasting your time if you continue to pursue trying to get your husband to come clean as it will never happen. I've never seen an issue dog tag with an address & phone number on it...yea 100% fake and no military branch will let you put anything you want on a dog tag. Personally I hated basic training and there wasn't one fond memory, but it wasn't what I would call hard as a lot of it deals with mental coping skills & attention to detail and there is no way in hell that I would want to move to San Antonio just so I could be near Lackland AFB. I never heard of any Army recruit jumping out of helicopters in boot camp.
There is a whole scam that guys do claiming to be military solely to prey on women, and they are very good at it. Some of these guys have either tried to enlist, dropped out of boot camp or had a family member in the military so they will have some knowledge to sound like they know what they are talking about but there are still some things that you can do to vet at least some of their claims. If they claim to still be enlisted ask to see their ID card, now called a CAC. Dog tags don't count for anything. Ask for a duty phone number or at least a phone number in his unit. Just about every military person I know has enough pictures of them either in a deployed location or at least some pictures of them doing "military" stuff in uniform and with other soldiers/airmen. If he doesn't have a single picture then I'd be VERY suspicious, and don't fall for that classified crap...guys still find a way to take pictures, and they do. Anyway, good luck and focus your energy on your kids and write your husband off as a total loss and a mistake and move on. You weren't the first and won't be the last to fall for the fake military guy.
I'm realizing that now, I just want closure and for him to admit it but he never will. I do not understand why people do that. Strangely his dad was actually in the military and he would show me pictures of his dad in uniform and I think he wanted to follow in his footsteps but never made it. Unfortunately, his dad was out of the picture for a long time or else I could've found this out a lot sooner.